Ascetic Fleece.

“You’re afraid of your demons”

“Hm. That’s odd …”

“What?”

“That’s not what they’re saying”

– O.D. ©2021 

Art by:  AngelGanev

Sky Surface.

I’ve been told I sling ink with the unrelenting fervor of a fiend

My pen skates paper,  friction sparks flame

Levitating fumes — Slowly. Deliberately, coalescing

Eventually marking the sky with intermittent smoke signals;

High or low — as far as you assume you may be,

Sooner or later you’ll start to see

That if you’ve been looking for a soul that burns much like mine

Every other place you’ve looked will continue to be the wrong place,

There’s only one soul that bears my likeness. You’ve already found it.

 

– O.D. ©2021

 

Art by: Aenami

A Series Of unpopular Opinions (7)

A series of unpopular opinions. Share a thought, no matter how crazy or critique the ones other people have chosen to share. The point is to have fun provided we all keep an open mind and respect each others views. Healthy debates are welcome, extended discussions even more so.

<< Held (almost) every Friday >>

 

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I shared four unpopular opinions in the last post. Thank you to those that participated.

 

Unpopular opinion #2 “Addiction to p*rn should be talked about more by” u/RayLove660022

 

Response(s):

Anne leueen  “Addicted to porn? There should be a 12 step program for that. Step one: Admitted I am addicted to porn and my life has become unmanageable. If it is an addiction it should be treated as other addictions are treated. Addictions are serious and can destroy a persons life and the lives of others around them. Porn is up there with meth, heroin, and gin!! Pernicious!”

 

Mbosto  On the issue of porn addiction people really think its unlikely for someone to be addicted but its a real thing its more common than u might think… And they suffer in silence coz ur first reaction is disbelief then disgust then denial…”

 

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Unpopular opinion #4 People should stick to their age when it comes to relationships” by u/IsNoBlinksyIsNoFun

 

Response(s):

Paula Light “Totally agree about large age differences in relationships. My ex husband is “only” 9 years older and that ended up being a problem. I can’t imagine how 20 years or more would go. Young enough to be your child? Nope!”

 

Mbosto “On a personal tip the age gap in relationships depends on ones emotional and sexual needs (i think) i for one did not date women my age because of the intelligence gap i found them shallow n lukewarm in both company and temperament… I preferred older women because they were more appreciative of my attention”

 

Thanks to Anne leueen  , Paula Light and Mbosto for participating and sharing their thoughts. Without you, this series would not be possible.

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As for today’s unpopular opinion(s) We have a whopping six to make up for the downtime; check them out:

(Note: These opinions are in no way reflective of my personal views or biases; just ones I think will spark interesting dialogue in the comment section) Except one, I’ll admit. One of them is close to my heart lol:

 

Unpopular opinion #1 People are always concerned about the planet we’re leaving for our kids, but nobody cares about what kind of kids we’re leaving for the planet by u/hasnayn123

Every single day we are getting away from being human, what we’ve learned in thousands of years….. we are getting more and more just materialistic beings…….. i don’t see a bright future here ……. well, not too optimistic

 

Unpopular opinion #2 The groom is just as important to the wedding as the bride, and should be treated like it by u/TheFlyingBoxcar

Seriously, its always bridal jewlery this and bridal shower that. Shows about the dress. But hey, its MY wedding too. It would be nice if men weren’t just depicted as plodding sloths dragged to the altar because they were dumb enough to get caught, and marketed to accordingly.

 

Unpopular opinion #3 We should normalize couples living together having two separate rooms by u/PickleWitty

I love my partner, and I love sleeping with him, but sometimes I really need my own bed to sleep on. I feel like if we were to move in together we should have separate rooms. Not because I don’t wanna sleep with him, I will many times, but having my own space is so nice.

I feel like this should be normalized and not every couple has to share a room. I told my friends this and they did not understand.

 

Unpopular opinion #4 Publicly shaming anti-maskers isn’t accomplishing anything aside from making these idiots further entrench themselves in their ideas by u/OldGreggScalyManFish

All these videos of people going up to anti-maskers while they shop isn’t going to accomplish shit. If a store has a lax mask policy or doesn’t enforce the rules, go shopping somewhere else.

 

Unpopular opinion #5 Workplaces shouldn’t have to accommodate smokers. If you can’t go more than a few hours without a cigarette, you have a serious addiction! by u/tgruff77

Workplaces shouldn’t have to accommodate smokers by giving them smoke breaks or time to go outside to smoke. If you can’t make it from the morning until lunch time without a cigarette, you have a serious addiction and a workplaces shouldn’t have to accommodate that addiction. Some time ago, I worked at a restaurant and saw workers take two smoke-breaks an hour. One coworker would break down into tears if she had to work more than an hour without smoking. That was some serious nicotine addiction! I enjoy soda a lot, but if I took a break (or two) every hour to down a can of Pepsi, my coworkers would probably stage an intervention. Whey, then, is nicotine addiction tolerated as much as it is in the workplace?

 

Unpopular opinion #6 It should be mandatory for employers to send rejection emails/letters by u/chexwithoutthemix

It’s annoying just sitting there and trying to reach the employer to see whether they are still considering the application or not. I’ve applied to several jobs (all which required an account) and under ‘status’ it says they are still reviewing it. It has been two weeks and at this point, I’m 100% sure that they will not hire me.

Sure some people don’t agree with this statement because they don’t like to see that they have not received the job. However, to me it is courtesy so that way I can go looking for other jobs.

 

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Thanks again to Paula Light  , Anne Leueene and Mbosto for their support and contributions.

– O.D. ©2021

 

Art by: snatti89

 

 

 

 

 

 

Questions You Are Yet To Ask.

Why is the art featured in your poetry mostly of women?

I’m a big supporter of the feminist plight. However, there is no way I could be at the forefront of that struggle without feeling like a fraud. I am not a woman, therefore I could never claim to know or understand what they go through. I can only support them in the only way I know I can.

And if I can write good poetry and then feature a lady I feel like I’m doing two or more things at the same time. Also not a big fan of dudes. That’s not an attack on my brethren. I’ve had the unfortunate pleasure of having to consistently navigate fragile egos for the longest part of my life. Even thought there was something wrong with me at one point. You know, the usual bullsh*t. Got no time for that. 

Hey misogynistic a**holes. If you need an ego boost, go to your mom.

Do you have any friends?

No. But I seem to get along well with old or dead people. I feel Iike Charles Bukowski would have been a great drinking buddy.

What kind of poetry do you like?

Any. But I’m particularly drawn to poetry/works that take risks and make me think. 

Do you cry?

Yes. And it feels suuuuper nice. 

What do you want most in this world?

Anything real. Yes, that’s vague and quite possibly subjective. I don’t have one answer for that. What’s real to you could be fake to me. Anything that doesn’t piss me off is a good start though. Very few things in this world piss me off; you’d have to be born of Hitler’s c*m stain for me not to want anything to do with you.

Any regrets?

If you had asked me in 2019 I would have said yes. But now, no. Regrets stem from reflecting over a choice you would have made in the past and believing it was a bad one.

My philosophy is there are no good or bad choices. Only choices.

If all my choices led to where I am now, nothing is off the table. Perhaps these are the benefits of making conscious decisions.

Pet peeves?

Absolutists. Visitors. Small-talk. Pretentious breakdowns that could be cut short with a simpler word choice. Copy-cats. Gas-lighters … *okay, I’m gonna need you to stop*

What motivates you to write?

Curiosity. Often when I write a piece I don’t know where it will end. What tends to happen is I write an impromptu piece, double-back and notice a similar pattern in the ideas I’m exploring then I title it after.

Pantser?

Guilty.

Who do you look up to?

No-one. 

Any other questions?

Honestly? let’s leave that part to the readers.

– O.D. ©2020

Art by: Feivelyn

Soul Diary Entry.

I do not seek happiness.

Happiness is a kick — a high — a distraction.

Like that stray golden leaf you follow

As it kites itself into a dark cavern

Guiding you to nothing but a dead-end; 

The only way forward?

Out. From whence you came.

No, instead, I seek joy. Hard won, born of self-fulfillment

Sustained of my own volition and will power;

Untethered from anyone; tempered from within,

From within this vessel we call a body,

A body, that houses my soul,

My soul, in a body, I can truly call home.

– O.D. ©2021

Art by: AngelGanev

Hope only means something to me when it’s real. When I wholeheartedly believe in it. Not when it comes from sourcing platitudes. I need to feel hopeful to write hopeful poetry; otherwise what am I doing? Lying. At least that’s what it means to me.

I write what I feel. And most of the time I feel like sh*t and that’s what I write. The up-side is you’ll know when I write something “good” I’ll genuinely be feeling that way. I know many people want to come on WP and read things that make them feel better. The good news is I never took the mantle to do that, only to be myself. And if no-one likes who I am, I have to wonder what they’ll be doing here when there are plenty of positivity blogs out there.

I owe it to other human beings to be my most authentic self. My only hope is they do the same. Otherwise please stay away from me.

Anyway, going back to the poem. IF I was to give unsolicited advice right now I’d say “Don’t ever let anyone be your reason for being happy. It’s a dangerous game”

But since I’m NOT giving unsolicited advice there’s nothing I’m saying in the above line lol I care enough to hypothetically tell you what not to do whilst not telling you what to do (?)

A Series Of Unpopular Opinions (6)

A series of unpopular opinions. Share a thought, no matter how crazy or critique the ones other people have chosen to share. The point is to have fun provided we all keep an open mind and respect each others views. Healthy debates are welcome, extended discussions even more so.

<< Held (almost) every Friday >>

 

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(Note: These opinions are in no way reflective of my personal views or biases; just ones I think will spark interesting dialogue in the comment section):

 

Unpopular opinion #1 If a celebrity’s content wasn’t made for kids then don’t complain about them not being a good role model by u/shelbygirl1919

I was just looking at a post on instagram of Rihanna in her shear, sparkly dress that didn’t leave much to the imagination. I was going through the comments and so many people were complaing about how she shouldn’t be dressing like this because young girls look up to her.

But I mean, people, it’s Rihanna. Her songs talk about sex, drugs, money, relationships. You know, things that aren’t for children. She does not make music for children, therefore she should not be a rolemodel for children.

If you have such a problem with the way she conducts herself then maybe your children shouldn’t be listening or looking up to her anyway. You are the parents if you want your child to have a good role model send them in the direction of someone you want them to be like. And if that person isn’t someone like Rihanna, then don’t let them listen to Rihanna!

 

Unpopular opinion #2 Addiction to p*rn should be talked about more by u/RayLove660022

As a person who is addicted to watching porn (I’m trying hard to stop), I don’t feel like people believe me. People just say “it’s normal”, but I feel like if someone has an addiction, they should be helped. I’ve talked to my therapist about it, one of my social workers (I used to be a foster kid), and some of my family. They all seem to shrug it off. Nobody really wants to help me get over my addiction because it’s a forbidden topic.

Also, I know another person who went in front of his church and said “I have a porn addiction”, and and everyone gasped. People that are addicted to this stuff really need help.

So, that’s why I think porn should be talked about more.

 

Unpopular opinion #3 Gun safety and use should be taught young, and reinforced throughout early adulthood by u/fallingbear67

May be a biased opinion. I was in boy scouts, and learned fire arm safety, and use in my early teens. While I don’t think it should be mandatory, for a country that made gun ownership one of it’s rights, we certainly don’t educate our citizens very much on fire arm safety or use.

I would have loved to take a fire arm class in school. Maybe as an elective, or alternate to gym? Learn archery and fire arm use and safety? It could destigmatize a lot of negativity regarding fire arms in the US specifically.

 

Unpopular opinion #4 People should stick to their age when it comes to relationships by u/IsNoBlinksyIsNoFun

Now, call me a prude, but I really have a problem with relationships where one partner is older than the other – especially when one partner is significantly older than the other. Now I get it, people will always look at young people and go “wow, they’ve got it going on” – but there is a difference between looking and not touching and actively going out of your way to be involved with them. To me, it’s a MAJOR red flag is someone actually does this – especially if they have children that are of an age with that individual or (in the most worrying circumstances) actually older than the person they are interested it.

Obviously, you can just chalk it up to “hey what you like shouldn’t dictate what other people do”, and yeah, I get that. I understand the whole argument of what happens between two adults consentually is their business and not yours. But because two people are into one another and have the right to be together doesn’t mean that they should be. I know a lot of people see no issue with age gap relationships and just sit on the high horse of “they’re both adults so they know what they are doing” – I think this is very problematic reasoning as it excludes the fact that adults, no matter their age, can be manipulated and – more importantly – young people, though adults, often don’t think the way that adults do; especially if they don’t have a troubled upbringing. Young people tend to be impulsive and prefer to ‘live in the moment’.

Plus, there is also the core problem that exists in these kinds of relationships – the fact that the partners are at different life stages. Let’s take a hypothetic (yet horrifying common) example, a 21 year old gets into a relationship with a 45 year old. The younger partner has just started their life, they are going through a stage of self exploration, one which they can more than share with partners of their own age. A 45 year old isn’t in this situation. Their life is already established, they know themselves and have already gone through a stage of self exploration. They generally have plans of settling down (if they haven’t already) and are looking for establishing foundations for the rest of their life (again, if they haven’t already) – a young person (in most cases) isn’t looking for this and being involved with an older partner who wants this is going to unfairly force them to skip a whole stage of their life.

We see time and time again that age gap relationships fall apart in the vast majority of instances specifically because the younger partner feels trapped by the older partner. Sometimes the younger partner is fortunate and manage to get out before they are trapped into a life stage they aren’t ready for… and sometimes the younger partner isn’t fortunate and end up getting out of the relationship with a child (or more) in tow. This isn’t just bad for the younger partner, it’s also bad for the older partner. The older partner has lost years that they could have spent with a partner of their own age and have lost valuable time to establish their future.

The whole situation becomes worse then the older partner already has a family. In these situations the relationships in the vast majority of cases cause major relationship issues within the family. Especially when it involves the younger partner being of an age with their partner’s children or younger. The amount of times I see posts on here or articles concerning children falling out with their parents because they in a relationship with or married to a partner who is a few years older or younger than they are or – in the most extreme circumstances – are decades younger.

 

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Roses Past The Deep End.

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I’ve made many, many mistakes.

And I’ll continue to.

But through each one, I’ve come to learn a great deal;

Resist the temptation to leer at my pitfalls

You might just see something.

 

– O.D. ©2020

 

Art by: AngelGanev

Cusp Of Ruination.

Fumbling in the dark

Yet, when I look within

All I see, is my soul.

Burning, like the rising sun.

– O.D. ©2020

Art by: AngelGanev