Clinical Dating Strategies.

Love died the moment I was told exactly

— Not approximately —

But Exactly, how to show it.

– O.D. ©2022

Art by: snatti89

“But O.D. some people actually appreciate being told what to do, how to do it and when to do it”.

And they should.

I believe in what I would call a Divine Ethos. That there’s a guiding principle in every human being that tugs at them every time they are about to make a bad decision.

Some might say principles that govern people vary with each community or culture. If we’re to take child soldiers for example, how would the divine ethos apply to them when they’ve been raised in a culture that rewards them for killing? To that, I would say the divine ethos still applies because even those child soldiers have a code they have to abide by. Off the top of my head, I would say “Don’t betray your brothers in arms” and “Leave no man behind” seem like reasonable tenets for such a community.

Relax strawman, this example does not mean I support having child soldiers, but it helps emphasize my point.

Love is now incredibly difficult given the standards and systems put in place to facilitate it. I’m not actively looking for love, but I see the challenges faced by those looking to find it. You can’t simply show love anymore, you have to show it in a specific way. And I understand everyone has their preferences. But some of these preferences come across as people ordering a sex doll with specific measurements and moaning capabilities.

You’ve got to have this — you’ve got to have that— you need to be able to do this — you need to be able to do that.

And it goes on and on …

We all have standards. But there’s a difference between screening Joe Goldbergians and strong-arming the world for a robot incapable of individual thought. Call me old fashioned but, I think I find love more fascinating when I trust the other person enough to know what could potentially work and not work. To let that divine ethos work within them and approximate what works for the both of us, because they’re human, just like me.

And if they turn out to be a serial killer, well, at least I’ll die having fun.

About Overly Opinionated People (w/ Dr. K.W)

I usually take it upon myself to dive right into these topics and share my own experiences, but I think we’ve done this dance too many times. I could also say I’m a little tired of hearing myself speak, which is why I invited Dr. Kno. Witall to share her professional opinion. 

For those that haven’t met Dr. Kno. Witall, you’re in for a treat. I wanted to list all of her achievements but she asked me not to; because she’s so humble.

In the following interview, I asked the good Doctor to share her thoughts on overly opinionated people. And with the little time she had, she offered me great insight.

I will refer to myself as (O.D.) and the good Doctor with her initials (K.W.) in the transcript.

Ready? Go.

O.D. : I see a lot of definitions floating around for what constitutes as being an overly opinionated person. How would you define them?

K.W. : Just gonna go right for the jugular huh… no “hello”, no nothing? I can respect that.

I’ll condense the definition of what it means to be an “overly” opinionated person into five key traits. if you carry ALL five of these, it may be time to clean the closet:

  • You always dominate the conversation.
  • You don’t listen, you wait for your chance to talk.
  • You never change your mind.
  • You jump to conclusions.
  • You know something, about everything.

O.D. : If I may ask, why do overly opinionated people exist? Can’t we, like, replace them how we would a faulty fridge or something?

K.W. : I often find myself asking the same question O.D. .See, at the root of overly opinionated people lies a desire to be validated.

Remember, having an opinion –or many — isn’t inherently a bad thing. It’s when you’re compelled to abrasively share hard stances over a wide range of topics/issues (unprovoked) that you may need to start regulating yourself. Those around you may be quiet, but that doesn’t mean they’re enjoying or even listening to what you have to say.

You often find overly opinionated people hi-jacking conversations.

They use these hi-jacks to share their unsolicited opinions. The roads to most — if not all their opinions — tend to lead back to themselves.

You can find similar parallels in people who “Listen to respond” instead of “Listening to understand”.

Overly opinionated people don’t listen to understand what you have to say; they listen,  waiting for a chance to speak.

O.D. : Is there a point to reasoning or perhaps even arguing with an overly opinionated person?

K.W. : If you’re looking for a time-sink of a hobby, yes. 

Consider looking at it this way:

When strongly opinionated people are ham-fisting (not sharing) their opinion, they talk like they have pressure built up, and the words they say come out forced and rushed.

Their whole demeanor, right out of the gate says “I’m Right”. More often than not, they’re ready to argue to the death whilst holding an irrational premise. They can be very uncomfortable to be around.

Do you know any “overly” opinionated people in your life?

O.D. : None worth mentioning.

K.W. : Because it would be a little sad to orchestrate this entire interview to help justify calling out a single person, now wouldn’t it, O.D.?

O.D. : Wha – Whoa – Hey, easy with the psycho-analyseees Doc!

K.W. : And for your final question?

O.D. : How do we deal with overly opinionated people? Asking for a friend.

K.W. : Set boundaries, Change topics, Ignore or if you’re able Walk Away.

O.D. : Succinct. Almost like we spent the entire afternoon rehearsing this — Thank you for sharing your professional knowledge, Doctor.

K.W. : Thank you for creat — having me.

*****

Wow. What an amazing interview. With a real person.

Dr. Kno. Witall was unfortunately too busy for further questioning. Any other interviews I have with her will have to come out of my wallet.

She gave me this one for free because she’s very nice, and very humble as she once told me. And now I’m telling you again, as I’ve already done before. And as we all know, someone only has to abide by a sequence of prohibitions and virtues for a relative amount of time before we can judge them as having an unfailing morality.

Keep an eye out for my upcoming Onlyfans account, it’s the only way I can think of to raise money for the next interview. Say what you will, but I’m doing my part in raising awareness for important issues. 

Sorry, what? You want Dr. Kno. Witall’s contact information to verify if she’s a real doctor?

Oh, the nerve. Here I am, sharing this information for free, and here you are going out of your way to ask me all these valid questions!

Everyone knows Dr. Kno. Witall is real — very real, okay? AND, a Doctor.  

– O.D. ©2022

Art by: tatasz

Executive Control Network.

When poetry flirts, I simp, like my life depends on it

Pooling ideas with the surface area of a vast ocean

Curious? Dare to dive deep — Seek one, run out of oxygen

Or get crushed under the rising  pressure of chaos made divine,

I ideate like my mind isn’t mine, like I’ve murdered

And my victim’s demons continue to haunt me.

 

But I kill their ghosts anyway, because I don’t know any better,

A new born  — naked — receptive, to spiritual energies that have long since faded

Sensory input hard-coded to defy Earth’s cultural vacuum

As predetermined as the ecliptic,

Drunk on the predictable, the certain, the specific,

If prosaic had a colour, it would be the one you see

In those that believe they are a gift to every living being.

 

A waste of time — arguing with an ignorant mind —

Head burrowed deep in the mud of sludgy confusion

Incapable of hearing, breathing, let alone understanding.

I let them suffocate, because then …maybe then …

They’ll rid themselves of themselves and we’ll get to keep our hands clean.

 

Goodwill rises like the sun over an icy horizon.

The warm embrace reminds me not to take more than I’m due

From a world long since ruled by inflatable giants

A voice reminds me to be patient — that it’s okay to be tired.

The consensus does not justify my pain 

It only reminds me that what I feel is as real as anyone else.

And so I listen, laying my pen to rest — signed:

Till our next talk, Creator.

 

– O.D. ©2022

 

Art by:  superschool48

 

Soul-Bonding Conversion Rates.

“Beautiful”, she said, looking into his eyes.

“But not as beautiful as you”, he replied.

She smiled, for he was right; she was beautiful.

His eyes were tireless in mirroring her form back at her.

So Beautiful, she thought.

Hoping it wouldn’t be confused with anyone else this time.

– O.D. ©2022

Art by: tatasz

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