A series of unpopular opinions. Share a thought, no matter how crazy or critique the ones other people have chosen to share. The point is to have fun provided we all keep an open mind and respect each others views. Healthy debates are welcome, extended discussions even more so.
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I shared six unpopular opinions in the last post. Thank you to those that participated.
Unpopular opinion #2 The groom is just as important to the wedding as the bride, and should be treated like it by u/TheFlyingBoxcar
anne leueen “#2.The groom is as important as the bride . He is , after all , 50% of the equation. No groom no wedding. I think he is overlooked because he does not get to wear such a fancy costume. And think about how often the Prima ballerina is mentioned and featured but the male lead dancer just appears to be there to life her up in the air. However Nureyev did equalize things through sheer stage presence”
Unpopular opinion #3 We should normalize couples living together having two separate rooms by u/PickleWitty
L’enthusiast “I agree with #3 couples should have separate rooms because inasmuch as you are part of a couple you are also an individual and there are days you just want your own space. It should be normalized to have your own room/space whatever the reason might be”
rugby843 “Separate rooms were a must when my husband was dying from cancer. A loving relationship between adults should not have separate bedrooms — not a good idea, in my opinion, at any time”
Thanks to Anne leueen , L’enthusiast and rugby843 for participating and sharing their thoughts. Very much appreciated.
As for today’s unpopular opinion(s) We have five. Check them out:
(Note: These opinions are in no way reflective of my personal views or biases; just ones I think will spark interesting dialogue in the comment section)
Unpopular opinion #1 Hate towards the homeless is one of the biggest problems that goes vastly unnoticed by u/-kiwi-1
This is coming from someone who has been homeless previously.
Sitting on the side of the street cold, alone and hungry isn’t a nice feeling. People give you weird looks, move their children away from you. It just makes you feel like no one cares, there are people that drop a few coins in or give you some leftovers which was always appreciated but it’s even worse at night. I’ve Been kicked punched pissed on, spat on beaten relentlessly time after time. Shelters are often no better, there are some bad people in there. Drug dealers, criminals. Neither the streets or the shelters seem safe. But you never really hear about it from what I’ve seen.
Unpopular opinion #2 It’s okay to not want to be friends with someone who has a mental illness/ mental health issues by u/tittybunsbeans
I don’t mean it’s okay to be a dick to them, I have a bunch of mental health issues as well. I mean it’s okay to acknowledge that it can be hard to make space and set aside the energy to maintain relationships with people who go through this shit and if at a point in your life you can’t do that, for the sake of your own mental health and sanity, it’s okay to set some boundaries and does not make you an evil or bad person.
Unpopular opinion #3 Companies need to stop using the words ‘only’ and ‘just’ when telling you how much something costs. by u/JesseB342
I know I sound crazy, but this has always irked me. Don’t try to make your product sound reasonably priced by putting the word ‘only’ or ‘just’ in front of the cost. Brand new streaming pile of horse shit, ONLY 9.99! or Bag of broken glass and cigarette butts, JUST 14.99!
Just come right out and tell me the fucking price. Don’t play games with me or treat me like I’m stupid. I know the relative value of things and what im willing to pay for something. If it’s a good deal I’ll buy it, otherwise I won’t. Stop using buzzwords to try and make a ridiculous price sound reasonable because it’s not working.
Unpopular opinion #4 The way Americans talk about “The Founding Fathers” as if they’re some sacred Gods who had it all figured out 200 years ago is very weird and cringey by u/Stimlak
I get that they are historically important, but some people think these guys from 200 years ago were incredible at predicting the future. As a non American, this always seems weird to me.
Unpopular opinion #5 Women should be allowed to take a sick day on the first day of their period every month, if they need to, without consequences by u/lemonpaloma
If you’re having horrible cramps, bloating, exhaustion, significant bleeding, etc., you shouldn’t be forced to put on a brave face and go to work if you don’t feel well enough. Many workplaces are male dominated or ruled by men and they obviously don’t understand and can’t relate to the hardships women face every month. It shouldn’t be taboo or embarrassing and it doesn’t make you any less competent or capable if you need a break when your body is revolting against you.
– O.D. ©2020
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12 Replies to “A Series Of Unpopular Opinions (8)”
Arrrrgh. I was going to respond last week but I was a bit sleepy when I read your post and wanted to make sure I responded well… only to apparently have forgotten to respond all together 😩
LOL! it’s not too late Tara. I would love to hear what you have to say about these new ones! 😀
In my opinion, most of these I would say are ridiculous except for the first one. You don’t need to be rude or use disgusting behavior to a homeless person. It might be you some day.
I absolutely agree. Often times, I notice people who mistreat others come from a place of ignorance. Ignorance in many respects fosters a lack of empathy because of varying reasons one of which being the inability to put yourself in the shoes if anyone else other than you.
Thank you for sharing 🙂
I don’t mind couples having separate rooms individually – a relationship should be healthy enough to give each other any kind of space as needed, why do it only when either one gets sick.
The treatment of the homeless is totally inappropriate.
I didn’t think about it before but I agree with you on number 3 🙂
I don’t know if it is required to specify that I am a woman on the first day of period. I would rather simply take a sick leave because I am sick just like any other human feels sick someday and prioritize self-care. I am assuming there are monthly sick leaves allotted in most jobs, I don’t work for anyone.
You offered some interesting insight. I really appreciate your comment 🙂 . I’m biased towards having separate rooms as well, according to traditional standards this may come across as a red flag but I suppose that’s why I’m not a big fan of marriage lol
(btw these are not my personal opinions lol)
Yes I am aware how separate rooms are seen as red flags traditionally. It took me some years to realize that it can be very healthy for the marriage if they could take some space because they need it for themselves and not a reflection of their relationship, instead of being forced to share space that closely. It might help individual growth translating into better relationship, as long as there is trust, loyalty and integrity.
The homeless. I was always nervous of homeless people. I didn’t hate them I was just very uncomfortable. Then I read James Bowen’s autobiographical story :”A Streetcat Named Bob.” This is a true story of a recovering addict and a stray street cat and how they save each other. It opened my eyes to what the homeless life is like. Now I often will stop to chat for a moment and see if they would like something to eat.
And I think you initially being nervous around them is completely valid. The reason I say that is because sometimes our perception is shaped by our first encounters or the little we’ve come to understand or see of an area unexplored. My first encounter with the homeless was harassment at a fun fair as a child, and I never really paid them no mind after that. in fact I would avoid them completely. But through time I’ve come to understand that I need to not judge every single person around me based on that single encounter. At the same time I need to be cautious because not everyone has the best intentions.
Yes and as a woman I always assess the situation of where I am ,who else is around ,and what state is the homeless person in (sober? Etc).
Yes! Important distinction, that one. Can’t expect to reason with a drunk person lol thanks Anne 🙂
Kindness. Is the thing, we must do. We never know why a person fell to homeless. Many Vietnam vets are homeless. Hello my friend and good morning from Michigan.