From the bottom of my heart, thank you,
Thank you for thinking I am in dire need of your wisdom;
And that I just so happen to be afraid to ask for it.
Now what I say next, I will try and say politely;
I make timeless bids to avoid the mischaracterization of my words.
“Friend. When I’m in need of your advice;
Make no mistake, I’ll ask you for it”
– O.D. ©2019
Art by: JoeyJazz
This is just one of the many ways I’ve lost friends believe it or not. I relay a concern to a listening ear and out of nowhere I’m being told what to do about it. I appreciate the effort, I truly do, but I prefer handling things on my own first before relying on others.
Quite a few people take it personally when you tell them this. They start to think you don’t value their input when you actually do.
I believe in not being a burden, and as a result, many people tell me that they are willing to share my burden. To which I tell them it’s not up to them to decide whether they can shoulder my burden or not.
Maybe it comes across as dismissive or rude, hard to say. All I know is that I mean it in the best possible way. The last thing I need is someone to pin the blame on when things go south. I would rather fail on my own and blame myself than someone else. But at the same time, if advice truly is sound and resonates with what I have in mind I see no qualms in following through.