Unsolicited.

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From the bottom of my heart, thank you,

No, seriously,

Thank you for thinking I am in dire need of your wisdom;

And that I just so happen to be afraid to ask for it.

 

Now what I say next,  I will try and say politely;

I make timeless bids to avoid the mischaracterization of my words.

 

“Friend. When I’m in need of your advice;

Make no mistake, I’ll ask you for it”

 

– O.D. ©2019

 

Art by: JoeyJazz

 

This is just one of the many ways I’ve lost friends believe it or not. I relay a concern to a listening ear and out of nowhere I’m being told what to do about it. I appreciate the effort, I truly do, but I prefer handling things on my own first before relying on others.

Quite a few people take it personally when you tell them this. They start to think you don’t value their input when you actually do.

I believe in not being a burden, and as a result, many people tell me that they are willing to share my burden. To which I tell them it’s not up to them to decide whether they can shoulder my burden or not.

Maybe it comes across as dismissive or rude, hard to say. All I know is that I mean it in the best possible way. The last thing I need is someone to pin the blame on when things go south. I would rather fail on my own and blame myself than someone else. But at the same time, if advice truly is sound and resonates with what I have in mind I see no qualms in following through.